Last Updated on January 22, 2022 by Khan
It’s been a while since you broke up with your ex. The signs that they are pretending to be over you seem all too real – the signs of their behavior, the signs in the way they talk about other people, and signs in what they say.
But can you trust these signs? Maybe it’s just wishful thinking on your part.
It’s not easy to figure out if your ex is pretending to be over you or if this is how they feel, but here are 23 clear signs your ex really want you back in the game!
These signs will surely help you out to find out whether your ex is playing a game or not.
Definite Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You
It becomes difficult to know if your ex is actually pretending to be over you or if they’re just being cordial.
Here are signs that may indicate that your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend has moved on and isn’t really into giving you another chance:
Your Ex Shows No Interest In Getting Back Together With You
Your ex no longer shows signs they’re interested in getting back together with you.
They show no signs of missing you or liking the idea that you still want them to be your partner again.
Even if your ex says “no” when asked outright about getting back together with you, there are signs they aren’t over it yet.
Your Ex Never Initiates Contact
Your ex does not initiate contact with you!
If your ex is truly over the relationship, they will make an effort to reach out.
They may secretly or openly want you back, and initiating contact lets them know their chances of getting you back are good.
So it’s a win-win situation for them either way (even if there isn’t a chance of getting back together).
Your Ex Is Frantically Moving On
Your ex is not only pretending to be over you. They’re also moving on with their life.
If your ex is dating someone new or joining a gym and working out (or any other signs that would show they’re trying to move forward), it’s pretty obvious they don’t want you back.
Your Ex Is Using You To Get Back At Someone Else
Your ex might be pretending to get over you just so they can use it against their new partner!
They’re probably still secretly mad at them, and by getting over you, they are one step closer to breaking up with the other person for good.
Your Ex Is “Settling Down” With Someone New
Your ex is in a serious, committed relationship with someone new!
This could indicate that they are trying to use the other person to get over you, or they’re just plain old settling down.
You Are The Backup Plan For Your Ex
If your ex still wants you back, they will likely do everything in their power to get you.
If your ex is only pretending to be over you and the relationship just so they can have a backup plan – well, that’s not very nice!
Your Ex Has Gotten Back In Contact With You
Your ex might contact you after months or years of being out of touch!
This could signify that they want you back but don’t know how to go about it.
It’s also possible your ex is just being nice and contacting you for old-time sake.
Your Ex Talks About Their New Partner
If your ex starts going on and on about their new partner or all the things going great in their life, it’s a sign they’re trying to make you jealous.
They may also be pretending to get over you so that when the relationship with this new person ends (because of your ex), then they can swoop right back into the picture!
Your Ex Is Really Good At Faking
Your ex is so good at pretending to be over you that they’ve fooled everyone around them!
It’s signs like this when it becomes difficult for even yourself to tell if your ex is truly over the relationship or not.
Easy Signs Your Ex-Girlfriend Is Pretending To Be Over You
Girls are really smart and can be very sneaky – this is especially true when they want to manipulate you.
Some girls pretend to break up with a guy just so that he comes running back, and then she gets him right where she wants him!
This may not even be the girl’s intention from the beginning, but it could also end up happening.
These are the possible signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you
She Is Still Following You On Social Media
This is a really obvious sign, and you should look out for it.
If your ex-girlfriend has deleted all of the photos she once had with you on social media, this might be a good thing and means that they are over you (or at least trying to appear like they’re over you).
But if your ex-girlfriend still follows you on social media and has not taken down the photos of the two of you, this is a really big sign that they are pretending to be over you.
She Still Wants To Talk To You
Even though she told you it was okay for her to talk with other people (which is a complete lie), this is one of the most obvious signs that she’s pretending to be over you and not ready.
If your ex-girlfriend still wants to talk with you, it means they’re not ready for real closure and are probably in love with you or have some feelings left after all!
She Is Trying To Be Friends With You
This may seem like a nice thing if your ex-girlfriend wants to be friends with you, but this is one of the biggest signs that she’s pretending and not ready for closure.
Your ex-girlfriend should be cutting all ties with you and not trying to befriend you unless they’ve moved on already (and even then, it might be a little weird).
Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Pretending To Be Over You
Men tend to look good at pretending, and it’s no different when they’re trying to pretend that they don’t want you back.
Some guys may even go as far as deleting old pictures of the two of them together or talking behind your back about how they’re so over the relationship.
These are the signs your ex-boyfriend may pretend to be over you:
He Talks Behind Your Back
Men love to do two things, and those are talking about women behind their backs and flirting with other girls.
If your ex-boyfriend is pretending like he doesn’t want you back…he will most likely talk bad about you or try to get the attention of another girl right in front of your face.
He Deletes Pictures of the Two of You
If you notice that your ex-boyfriend has deleted or tried to delete pictures on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.,
Then he may be pretending for one reason…to see if you’re still thinking about him.
Another thing guys do is try and go through their social media page to delete your two pictures together, but he won’t do it all at once.
He might remove one picture here and there until your whole image is gone from his profile… that’s when you know for sure that he has moved on.
Don’t let him fool you into thinking that he doesn’t want you anymore…because you will always be his “boo.”
He Hints at Who He’s Dating
Guys like to flaunt the women they’re dating and take them places where they think that their exes might be.
This is another way for your ex-boyfriend to make it seem like he doesn’t care…but we all know that’s a lie!
If he likes the attention of other women, then why would you think anything different?
Don’t be fooled by him pretending to go on with his life without thinking about you. He still cares and wants you back… don’t let him fool you into believing otherwise.
He Hints at You Being “The One That Got Away”
This is a very common sign that your ex-boyfriend may be pretending to have moved on from you.
He might start talking about how he loved you and missed you, but it wasn’t meant to be.
Guys love the idea of having “the one that got away” because it gives them the idea that they almost had their happy ending.
Don’t give him this kind of power over you…because he doesn’t deserve even an ounce of your time back.
Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You Through Text
If you’ve ever gotten a text message from your ex that seems too good to be true, then it probably is!
It’s also possible that your ex isn’t pretending at all; they may just want to get back together!
These signs will help you over the text that your ex is pretending to be over you:
Your Ex is Being Passive Aggressive
Your ex is passive-aggressive when they send you vaguely positive texts but come off as mean.
For example, “Hey! I’ve been thinking about you!” might sound nice at first, but it could also be a message to let you know your ex still cares indirectly.
If that’s the case, then your ex isn’t really over you and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Your Ex Doesn’t Reply Right Away
If you ask your ex a question or send them something that requires an immediate reply (like “Are we okay?”), and they take forever to respond. It could be because they are still hung up on you.
This is not the behavior of someone who has moved on.
Your Ex Starts Acting Weird
If your ex starts acting strangely, like avoiding certain topics and being short with their responses, it could be because they feel guilty about getting back together.
If this happens, take it as a sign that your ex still has feelings for you and doesn’t want to hurt you.
Your Ex Keeps Talking About Other People
Does your ex keep bringing up other people when they talk about the future?
For example, do they say things like “When we get back together” instead of saying “If we get back together?” If so, then your ex might still be hung up on you.
Your Ex Keeps Talking About Something You Did Together
Suppose your ex brings something specific to the conversation (like a certain restaurant or activity), but they fail to mention anything about doing it with anyone else in the future.
In that case, that’s another sign that your ex is over you.
When someone else comes into the picture, they will mention them, so you know they’re an option.
Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You On Social Media
It’s a bad sign if your ex is trying to show you that they’ve moved on by posting about it all over social media.
They might be pretending, but there’s also a chance that this person really has gotten over the relationship and doesn’t want you back.
Your Ex Doesn’t Change The Relationship Status
If your ex pretends to be over you, they won’t change their relationship status back to single.
They want everyone on social media to think that they’re happy and have moved on from you.
Your Ex Doesn’t Deletes Pictures Of You From Their Profile
If they still have your pictures on their social media profiles, it’s a clear sign they want you back, but they don’t want to admit it.
Even if they delete all of your pictures, keep an eye out for them, posting something like
“I miss my ex” or tagging you in a picture even though they don’t want to be seen with you anymore.
Your Ex Moves On To Another Relationship Quickly
If it seems like your ex has moved on to another relationship in a matter of weeks or months.
Then they are probably pretending to be over the one that they want back.
This is especially true if their new partner looks exactly like them!
They Like Everyone Profile Picture Except You
If your ex likes all of your mutual friends’ pictures but not yours, it’s because they don’t want you to know that they still like you.
Your Ex Doesn’t Like Or Comment On Your Photos Anymore
It might be a sign that your ex is pretending if the person doesn’t like or comment on your pictures anymore.
Your Ex Makes A New Instagram Account To Avoid You
If you’re trying to keep tabs on their social media profile and they make a new account, there’s a good chance that it’s because they don’t want you to know what they’ve been doing.
If this happens, then try blocking them and see if it makes a difference!
Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You Long Distance
If your ex is pretending to be over the relationship, but they’re long distance – it’s going to be a lot harder for them!
There could still be hope if this person wants you because there are ways to make the distance less of an issue.
Here are some signs your ex is pretending to be over you long distance.
Your Ex Pretends To Be Busy All The Time
Your ex might be pretending to be over you because they’re too busy.
This is just another tactic that’s going to distract and confuse you!
If your ex keeps saying how much work or school they have – it could mean something more than just them being “busy.” It might mean they don’t want to talk to you!
Your Ex Always Has An Excuse
If your ex always has an excuse to not talk or hang out – you might need to start questioning.
It could just mean they’re pretending and don’t want anything else from the relationship!
You can ask them why they keep having excuses, but this will confuse them too because it’s going to take them off guard.
They’re Not The Same Person They Used To Be
If your ex used to be a lookout open person and now they only want to talk about stuff that has nothing to do with you – it’s going too far!
You can try talking about other things, but if their responses are still short or they seem to focus on something else – it’s a clear sign they’re not ready.
That’s it from the possible list of signs which you can check on to decide whether you fit in this or not.